…s an immediate “ick.” However, dating is not about ticking off checkboxes; it’s an organic process. It’s about story-building, but if all we’re focused on are the small, undesirable traits, then…s an immediate “ick.” However, dating is not about ticking off checkboxes; it’s an organic process. It’s about story-building, but if all we’re focused on are the small, undesirable traits, then we’re freezing our ability to create an exciting narrative.